Masturbation is one of those things we all do but no one really talks about – it’s like an open secret that no one’s ever going to admit to. But as with all things, discussion around masturbation is opening up more and more everyday – and we’re finding out just how much many of us do it – hint : it’s a lot!. Discussions around this topic still feel very new and there’s a lot of questions that are still left unanswered. How much should you masturbate? How long? Does masturbation cause premature ejaculation?
That last question is of particular interest. Is there a relation between the two at all? It should make sense that masturbation and premature ejaculation have something that connects the two – it all does happen in the same place!
What is Masturbation?
Just so everyone’s on the same page, let’s put down a definition that we’ll use:
Masturbation in men is the act of stimulating the penis to gain sexual pleasure with a goal to achieve orgasm.
The mechanics my vary from man to man – but the general act of ‘self-love’ is the same. Some men may not even get themselves to orgasm – and just enjoy the sensations. It’s one of the most natural things that a human being can do. In fact most people agree that masturbation is directly related to the healthy sexual development!
Most men agree to masturbating at least once per week with others doing multiple times. With the prevalence of masturbation being so common and then premature ejaculation being one of the leading sexual disorders in men, you have to wonder if the two really are connected. Or is this just speculation?
It then becomes a shame that it’s discussed with such prude-ness. The scientific community itself has been exploring the subject of a the relation between sexual development, pre-mature ejaculation and masturbation. There exists a natural link between the two subjects, and it should be investigated.
Is there a link : Premature Ejaculation Masturbation
Whatever the case, the question still remains unanswered: does masturbation cause premature ejaculation ?
Let’s put it this way:
- 95% of men have admitted to masturbating at-least once, so about 9 out of 10 men.
- About 40% or, 4 in 10 men suffer from premature ejaculation.
The natural response to data like this can make one assume that there might be some form of overlap between the two. But data and it’s interpretation can be slightly tricky. Data like this needs to be looked at and compared with other sources.
With the scientific community still getting investigating the effects of masturbation, the data we have about the link between the two is sparse – but it requires a great deal of inspection and verification.
Does the premature ejaculation masturbation Venn diagram overlap? Let’s answer in a series of small questions:
Does masturbation cause Premature Ejaculation
There just isn’t enough data to answer this question. We would err on the side of caution and for now say that there isn’t a link between the two at all. A ‘regular’ masturbation routine should in no way affect factors that cause premature ejaculation.
Premature ejaculation causes are far and wide : from depression, anxiety, trauma , to genetics, to an unhealthy lifestyle. But no where within the scientific realm can we find a link that completes the premature ejaculation masturbation circle. One might draw a conclusion from the sparse material available, but there just isn’t data/evidence to support it.
Masturbation habits vary from person to person. Where one person may masturbate once a week, another may do it up to 4 times a week – or more! This then begs another question:
Does excessive masturbation cause premature ejaculation?
‘Excessive’ masturbation is defined as such when masturbation and acts associated take over someone’s life and hinder other activities. A red-flag here is when you’re skipping out on activities just to masturbate.
As one can imagine, there could be a myriad of other factors that enable the occurrence of premature ejaculation in someone who is already excessively masturbating.
It would be all to easy to point the finger at just the act of excessive masturbation alone and that that it is the root cause here. While this is simply not the case, excessive masturbation is indicative of other variables that eventually become the cause of premature ejaculation.
These are factors like a lack of quality sex-life, and distress, anxiety and depression in general life. The psychological factors that cause premature ejaculation are just as bad as the physical ones. These factors can manifest in a ton of ways, and excessive masturbation just happens to be one of them.
So in a way excessive masturbation is an indication here, and not the cause itself.
Does masturbation prevent premature ejaculation?
Curiously enough, it does! All this time we’ve been looking at the wrong side of things. When you stop and think about it, it makes perfect sense. It’s literally exercising your penis.
So if you know what’s coming (no pun intended) you can stop it in it’s tracks.
Masturbation is one of the recommended techniques that’s prescribed to men dealing with the condition. It helps exercise control over the ejaculatory reflex in men. When you masturbate you’re made aware of the feelings and sensations that occur when you are close to orgasm – and this helps to gain control.
Start and stop method
Masturbation in and of itself doesn’t prevent premature ejaculation but what you use it for and how you do it. Getting yourself to the finish line as soon as you can when you masturbate isn’t going to help anyone. Instead, try and model the start and stop method, otherwise known as edging.
This is an treatment that you can do by yourself at home, without any equipment.
To do it, start masturbating as you would normally. Keep stimulating your penis and work towards that climax. When you get close to orgasm, stop yourself and wait for the reflex to go away.
When it is gone, continue masturbating.
Exercising control like this can go miles into helping you getting the restraint you need to control premature ejaculation. The main focus here should be to train yourself to stop when you feel an orgasm coming on. It should b second nature after some practice!
Squeeze Method
In the same vein as the start and stop method, the squeeze method helps exercise control over the ejaculatory reflex when masturbating.
With the squeeze method, you start masturbating normally as you would, getting yourself close to orgasm. When you feel the ejaculatory reflex coming in, all you have to do is firmly grip the shaft of your penis until you feel the reflex passing.
Once it has passed you continue to masturbate regularly.
You can do this a couple of times until you eventually orgasm. The point here is to get familiar with the sensations of orgasm when you masturbate. So when you go and have sex you can last longer with the practice you’ve had. Great thing about this method is that your partner can join in as well! instead of yourself, they’ll be the ones gripping your penis when you get close!
Masturbate an Hour before
If you’re gearing up for sex and feel like you might not last long there are a couple of ways you could use masturbation to your advantage and last much longer in bed.
Masturbate an hour before you have sex. This helps your penis and body as a whole ‘warm-up’ for your encounter later. Your penis having just ejaculated, isn’t going to be as keen to do it again in such short amount of time helping you last much longer in bed.
Masturbate with your partner
Not only is a great way to spice things up in the bedroom, you’ll be able to pleasure your partner and get them to orgasm as well. This way you’ll try out something new and exciting in bed too!
If you want to be even more clever about it, you could help masturbate your partner by performing oral sex or use your fingers to pleasure them as well. This will increase the time you spend in bed by a whole lot and your partner’s going to really love you for it as well.
Sex is all about the giving!
Takeaways
Masturbating is a completely natural activity that a lot of us take part in (but are afraid to admit that!) There’s a lot of investigation and speculation in the scientific community and in general about the effects that masturbation might have on the body.
A lot of the misinformation and rumors originate simply from the fact that there just isn’t a lot of research into the link between masturbation and premature ejaculation. Unsurprisingly, as it turns out what little information we do have about the link between the two tells us that, well – there just isn’t one.
In fact, masturbation actually helps with premature ejaculation in surprising ways! Many specialists already recommend some of of masturbatory activity to help treat premature ejaculation. These help you get become better at controlling the urge to orgasm.
So to end things, don’t be afraid to enjoy yourselves!
